If you have a perfectionism disorder causing difficulties in your life, Please seek professional help.
This is my opinion only and should NOT be
considered professional advice.
Pursuing perfection is not an honourable goal. It causes an unimaginable amount of stress on the person that strives to be perfect. It is never attainable, never achievable.
It can be a huge inconvenience or a crippling disorder, depending on how far a
person takes it.
Imagine being six or seven years old, striving to be perfect, while trying to do a school assignment. One mistake or spelling error and you erase the whole page and start over. How do you actually complete a project?
There is never enough time to accommodate a perfectionist. The results are not the perfection you are striving for, but possibly, underachievement or incomplete projects. How ironic, since this is exactly the opposite of what you are trying to achieve! This can lead to frustration, procrastination, anxiety and even depression.
Dealing with this problem will depend on how severe the perfectionism disorder is. Factors may include the different aspects or your personality, your lifestyle, interests, hobbies and career.
There are certain jobs, where being a perfectionist, supposedly can be a good thing. The effective, productive perfectionist, still must have coping skills in place, to help keep themselves from going over board with this personality trait. It's important to know when to say enough is enough.
Not all people will be able to deal with a perfectionism disorder on their own and must seek professional advice.
Make craft projects which can help reduce the obsessive tendencies a perfectionism disorder can create. Pick something not requiring precision. You should find it fun, relaxing, quirky or even a little wonky.
Yes, I do realize for a perfectionist, it may be difficult to determine what this project might be. Here are some suggestions that have helped a self professed perfectionist:
*Please keep in mind perfectionist tendencies may be something you can deal with on your own, depending on the severity, whereas a perfectionism disorder may not.
One, enjoyable, relaxing activity is sewing patches on pants. There are no rules that have to be followed and nothing needs to be exact.
Patches can be any size or
shape. Stitches don't have to be uniform. They can be hand stitched or machine
sewn. This activity can be mesmerizing and relaxing.
Having a cooperative pair of pants is helpful. Pick a well worn pair you really like, with wear holes (or not) and start patching.
Rip the patch material for a frayed edge or cut and fold under, if you still aren't able to really let loose.
It takes practice to stop trying to be perfect! Eventually, you may begin letting go of your perfectionist tendencies and just start having fun.
Dig out the embroidery thread and darning needle and add some artwork, while you are at it.
Make sure to pick something that looks good using fairly random, simple stitches.
Perfectionists of course can even take this to the extreme, if they choose to. Try not to! The goal is to not obsess over the finished result.
Enjoy the process and believe in "Good Enough." It is helpful to see worthwhile results, even without pushing yourself into overdrive.
I've tried cross stitch and didn't like it at all! All those tiny little X's, exactly the same size, were not for me! This did not relieve my obsessive tendencies. I wasn't sure embroidery would be any different. Much to my surprise, I am able to do simple embroidery, without fussing too much. It's easy, uncomplicated and I'm happy with the results.
Choose an easy craft project that is enjoyable and relaxing for you. Hopefully, you can relieve your need to strive for unattainable perfection.
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